In this business of living, on a daily basis, each of us goes head to head with the tapes within our minds that love to run and run and run, telling us we're too old, too fat, not educated enough, not handsome or pretty enough, too poor etc.

For me, this Living The HeartLife project has pulled every disempowering tape out of my storage files that I've accrued over the years and the lifetimes.

"This isn't making a difference in the world."

"You're not selling enough books."

"No one is commenting on your blogs." 

"You must not be a good enough writer."

"How do you think you'll ever get on Oprah?"

"Don't quit your day job!"  

And on and on and on.   

I am still here however, just over two years since I sat down and began writing Living The HeartLife... Letting Go Of The Hard Life and guess what... the tapes are still playing!

I answered the call of my heart and without fail, although it may not be the picture I have imagined in my mind, Cynthia and I have been supported along the way just enough to stay in the game.  Wonderful individuals have embraced this project and have given of their time, their talents and their resources to educate me, inspire me and keep me moving forward.

Not enoughness is simply the old guard that is fighting to keep its tenure within us.  The little self, the little mind, the little i is the very dominant EGO that has been running the show here on earth and certainly in my life, and it has had its way with the majority of us here on earth.

There have been days when I have obeyed this scheming voice within me and I temporarily throw in the towel.  Then I gather my will, align myself with my higher, inner Presence and I turn my attention to Its voice and I begin again, in the present moment and I move forward feeling empowered once again.

This is the work that is before each one of us who is committed to uplifting our lives and the lives of those around us.  There's a new community connection that is happening amongst those of us who are here to do life differently.  We don't enable, we empower. We don't judge, we love and accept, seeing beyond the ego facade of insecurities, judgement, anger, jealousy and the like.

Keeping ones finger on the play button of the not enoughness tapes will exhaust us.  The litany of no-can-dos will keep us imprisoned where your will power will rot, shrivel up and die.

Here is the golden goodie though that I trust will assist you as it has me in living with these 8-track tapes of the past... if you love them long enough, embrace them and don't fight them, and tell them with all the spiritual authority you can muster, "you no longer control my life!" then over time, they will retreat into the background of your mental chatter, eventually being content with just "hangin' out."

You see, the ego is like an abandoned, neglected and ignored child that eventually begins to act out negatively just to get your attention!  Then what do we do with that sort of behavior?  We yell and rant and rave and punish it perpetuating the loop.  

There is a different approach to quiet the not enoughness self-perception and begin to honor and demonstrate our "more-than-enough" aspect of us. 

Try this exercise:

When your tapes begin to play, take a DEEP BREATH, close your eyes (if you're not driving) and imagine seeing a young child acting out, throwing a tantrum or sticking its tongue out at you.

Stand strong before them, pour you heart's love into their eyes and their heart, kneel down and stretch out your arms toward them and see if they are ready to come towards you and be comforted and calmed.  If they do come to you, let go of the judgement and just hold them and see their magnificence and whisper into their ear," I have not come here to judge you, I have come here to love you free."

Then let them run off and play and enjoy life.

If the child is not ready to come to you that's okay too.  Just be consistent with this practice, no matter what the negative chatter is.  Just go into this mental imagery knowing that embracing this aspect of you is the key to dismantling its control over you.  Beating it into submission, ignoring it, or collapsing into a puddle of fear and tears is NOT the way to become unstoppable.

While loving the altered ego into retreat, we must each also begin to give our attention to that part of us that is enough, in fact that part of us that is way beyond enough.  That unseen part of ourselves that knows only love, wisdom and power to handle anything, create anything, and love everything.

Not enough or more than enough... which voice will you align with?